What To Do On A First Date
So you’ve managed to bag yourself a first date (or you’re considering asking someone to meet up). At Man’s Black Book we’ve taken the time to find out what it takes to achieve the perfect date and get you past first base.
If you haven’t yet asked her to meet up for a date, you don’t want to waste any time hooking up with her. The sooner the better. Life’s too short to piss about with dating. Not only that, the longer you leave it the more time you have to play it over in your head and what may go wrong. So – let’s get on with it.
Hopefully, by following these simple first date tips, you will be able to make a good impression.
1. Manage Your Nerves Beforehand
Going on a first date can be nerves provoking for anyone, including the person you’ll be going on the date with. There are a couple of things you can do to cope with first date nerves on the days that lead up to your first meeting. Try hitting the gym or going for a jog. Any type of exercise helps with excess stress and nerves and can help clear your mind and get you in a better place. Anyway – it’s best not to get your hopes up too much on any first date. She might not be worth it.
2. Where To Meet
When it comes to arranging your first meet, she’ll probably ask you where you’d like to go. Don’t say you don’t know or you’re not sure – this will make you look indecisive and lacking in confidence.
You’ll need to avoid any loud places for your first date because you probably won’t be able to hear each other talk. The cinema is also a bad move (only a few minutes of chatter at the start and end of your date and not engaging with each other at all in the middle when the film’s on).
One of the great things available to us is Google. So have a look around for somewhere with good star ratings and high recommendations. Find a building that offers two exits and an easy escape route in case she’s a dog and looks nothing like a profile picture (on that note, if her facebook pictures are all face shots, she’s hiding something big. BIG.)
3. Your Appearance
Appearance is everything on a first date so you have to look your best for your first meeting. You do not want to look like a tramp. Get yourself to the high street and get some new clobber. It doesn’t have to be expensive or designer (although some women are shallow like this). Everybody always feels better in new clothes and this can go a long way to boost your confidence on a first date(and confidence is what you’re going to need on a first encounter with a girl, especially if you’re not Brad Pitt).
You probably want to be aiming for casual to smart casual for your first date. Get yourself a haircut and make sure your hygiene is tip top. Nobody wants to be sat next to a pig.
If you’ve met your date online, make sure you revise up on everything you have talked about previously. For God’s sake, remember her name.
Make sure you’re on time for your first date. Being late really will reflect poorly on you. Women hate flakiness and disorganisation. Being late makes out that you’re not bothered. Then again, don’t rock up to your first meet too early either (this may appear as desperate).
6. NO FLOWERS
There are a lot of sites that recommend turning up to a first date with a rose or flowers but our advice is – AVOID. It’s not really a rocking look for man. Women often talk about romantic encounters with men who bought them flowers but this isn’t what they want. Certainly not on a first date.
Understand this: FLOWERS SHOULD ONLY BE USED TO GET YOU OUT OF THE SHIT.
7. Keep The Conversation Light
Nothing heavy should be discussed on a first encounter with a woman. General interests, her work and hobbies always go down well. Keep your eyes on hers, even if she has banging tits. When presented with a great pair, our eyes do wander. If you have to look, make sure you do it discreetly and that you’re not caught. Certainly don’t stare as it’ll come across creepy.
Do not, for f**cks sake, talk about your ex on a first date. This will make her think that you still have feelings for her. Don’t talk about anything depressing, controversial or weird. Attempting to engage her in any deep discussion about religion or politics will guarantee your slaughter.
8. Be Polite
It goes without saying that you should be polite, courteous and well mannered on a first date and that includes towards anyone you both encounter while you’re out. If you’re the type of guy to be rude and obnoxious towards serving staff – for example, to the girl that’s waiting your table – firstly – you’re a douchebag and secondly you should not expect a second date.
9. Who’s Paying?
You are. Unfortunately, you’re probably going to have to offer to pay at the end of a date night, even if she insists on paying half or picking up the tab. It’s just the way it goes. Some women are sneaky – they will use this as a test to establish your suitability. I.E when she is insisting she pays, she’s waiting for you to absolutely refuse and say you would not dream of her picking up the tab.
Therefore, if you’re a tight ass – suck it up or your going to be single for a long time.
10. To Kiss Or Not To Kiss
If you’ve managed to get through the first date ok, at the end of night she may want a kiss. If she gives you any more, bang it considering you’ve just paid for dinner. However, if this is how it turns out, our advice is to refuse her a second date. Women like that aren’t keepers or the kind you want to take home to your Mom. By all means, retain her as a casual f**k buddy.
11. The Follow-up
Don’t come away from a first date and then text her shortly after to ask her how she thinks it went. That will just come across as desperate. Also, don’t plague her with compliments or be overbearing in any way. Simply send her a complimentary text when you get home or the next morning, telling her you enjoyed her company and that you hope to meet again soon.